Sucks. I just found out that one of my friends has HIV. He used to be my best friend when I was 15... actually through 17, but then we had a massive falling apart. 2 years ago, I agreed to let him back into my life because I could tell that he changed his life. Our mutual friend confirmed that he was clean off hard drugs for over a year and we began talking again. So now I find this out...
I know that people with HIV can live quite a while, but this is quite tragic for me. I wish that he had made better decisions in his life. I don't think that being there for him when he was in his worst situation would have changed the outcome, but it is just very sad that his life is very much cut short because of the wrong decisions he has made. When I was 16, I was there for him when a friend of his died from AIDS... I wish that would have made more of an impact on his life, but I guess it didn't as much as I thought it would.
I'm not really sure, but I guess I'll keep talking to him. I am hesitant to move our relationship to anything further than what we have now.
I have found out through him that our mutual friend through all these years is completely subservient to her boyfriend. She doesn't return any of our calls, and nothing that we can do gets her to acknowledge us. For a while, it seemed to me that she was trying to get her life back, but it has taken a turn for the worse. Both me and him do not want to pursue her any longer. I won't pursue her until she breaks up with this guy, but I'm not sure if she'll ever have the sense to do that... It really sucks because while we have been friends since we were 15, she has not made any effort to value our friendship for quite a while...
*sigh*