The $%*! frustration thread

[Acacia Sgt]

Let me guess, it was the boss, right?

[nightmare975]

Removing what was frustrating me, didn't need to be here.

Other frustration, I missed a dinner with Alice on Friday.

[HyperNerd]

Guess who had the worst day of his life so far? I did~

On the way to school, our car broke down on the freeway. Once someone towed it away, And we got a ride, I went to my first period class, where of course, there was a Sub. The Sub did almost nothing, and we were forced to do busy work. And my classmates made fun of me endlessly and tortured me. One of my most hated enemies took the lunch box out of my backpack, without me really noticing. I was so mad NOT because of the lunchbox in particular, but the fact that he could have opened the pocket on my backpack with my wallet, Ipod, and such pissed me the hell off. I went to English, and when I realized it was gone, I LITERALLY burst out in rage. The year of torture before it all came at once. I scared the hell out of my classmates, by turning to the said student who took my lunch very calmly, but very loudly and a look that would kill him and send him to the deepest pits of hell. He acted like he didn't know what happened to it, but I saw through it. I ALMOST hit him, but the teacher interfered. She  got him in trouble, and forced him to help me look for it. With the same look on my face, I hunted for it, and found it in a trash can. The student attempted to make small talk nervously, as he KNEW that all the crap he and his friends had given me over the last two years could very well emerge from me as a fist in his face. I then was forced to watch as they got their confidence back and bothered me... Until math. One of the students who I hate the most kept telling me that somebody stole my lunchbox. My rage amplified to the point that I almost threw a pencil right between his eyes. Really. But the bell rang, thankfully, so I didn't go to juvenile hall for almost killing a peer. No, but I was bothered all through out lunch, and during band, I got very sick. So, I got a ride home, and am now sitting here, typing my terrible day for all to read.

JESUS I AM MAD.

[KebreI]

That really sucks HyperNerd, but keep in mind that life's a bitch. Exploding in peoples faces doesn't always help the situation, sometimes it does though

[teaflower]

The last time I really blew up at someone in school (fifth grade), I found myself rocking underneath a desk before being escorted to a place for unstable kids like me where they take away your shoes and make you color pretty pictures and eat the worst food ever.

I despise the Wetzel Center.

School can be a bitch, especially in middle school, but tough it out, Nerdy. High school is much better, but has a different sort of abuse to it. Like kids randomly spreading rumors behind your back. (I'm still denying that Alton, my friend from South Carolina whom I helped in French class, and I are going out) People will respect you more if you're calmer now. Sign up for sports or another club; when they get to high school, you will put them to shame.

Plus, high school is usually where kids like that grow up.

[HyperNerd]

Once more, I know all this. This is the first time it's really happened, although I didn't even really blow up, per say. If I DID, that kid would be dead, and I would be gone from this Forum.

[Shadow D. Darkman]

The last time I really blew up at someone in school (fifth grade), I found myself rocking underneath a desk before being escorted to a place for unstable kids like me where they take away your shoes and make you color pretty pictures and eat the worst food ever.

Holy shit, you were committed once?

A friend of mine who graduated last year was committed at the end of my freshman year (I'm a senior now), because people thought he was gonna bomb our school on June 6. My freshman year was Fall of 2005 to the Summer of 2006.

[teaflower]

I was committed twice. To the same place. In the same month. Although they were two years apart... but the spring time actually is a very hard time for me from emotional scars caused by that, as well as December. When my family became a giant jigsaw puzzle no one ever wants to solve...

Um... gripes... pulled the muscles in my back again. Sigh.

[hiddensquire]

HyperNerd:

You know, when I was in grade school, I got tormented, made fun of and bullied all the time.  When I was in middle school, I got tormented, made fun of and bullied fairly often.  When I was in high school, I very rarely got tormented or bullied, but was made fun of once in a while (but who doesn't?).  There were two factors that caused this change to occur:

• (1) As my peers got older, they looked more and more stupid for acting so childish, and thus couldn't bully as much in the traditional way.  In fact, by the time one reaches adulthood, all of the major things one can do to get under your skin pretty much become illegal, so it just doesn't happen, for the most part.  The minor things one can still do to annoy you at that point are ignored easily enough.  Also, I echo all of what teaflower said about high school (minus the sports part, but if the school has a speech team or something equally nerdy, it can be totally awesome).
• (2 [primary factor]) I had virtually no friends in grade school.  I had a couple friends in middle school.  I had a lot of friends in high school.  Having friends gave me a level of confidence that I wouldn't have been able to muster otherwise.  After all, who cares what the idiot bullies think of you when you have friends who know and agree with you that you are a great person?  Once you have that as a mental barrier, the antagonists become easier to ignore.  Additionally, hanging around said friends makes it far more difficult for you to be singled out and targeted by such a group of jerks.  Most people don't want to start trouble with someone when they've got friends right there.  Of course, if your friend has a history of doing nothing to defend you (verbally or physically), then that's another story; they're not very helpful at all then.

I'm sure that you do already understand and know most or all of this.  I'm mostly just offering morale support.  I know how intensely frustrating it is to be bullied, and I know for a fact that there are certain things bullies can do that make them impossible to be ignored, and I understand how incredibly frustrating THAT is.  It definitely pays off to react as little as possible in the long run, though there are sometimes situations that require action.

A question: have you considered ratting out the bullies, or do you feel that their actions have been too subtle for you to be able to prove your case to the school faculty?  Or perhaps you're just afraid that it will make more people hate on you and not actually solve any problems in the long term?  These are all valid concerns.  I was just wondering.

[Shadow D. Darkman]

I was committed twice. To the same place. In the same month.

Ouch. I feel for you. Late last year, we caused the Chief Of Police that ordered my friend to be committed to lose his job.

[HyperNerd]

JESUS, we're a huge, strange, and close Compendium family that has had our own problems. The trouble is, I have 4 freinds at my school. That's it. That's where the trouble of switching schools comes in... Oh yes, and I'm absolutely positive I'm going to a completely different high school than all of them. As for ratting them out, I've done that. I've done everything short of cussing them out in public, and hitting them.

[hiddensquire]

Yeah, it sucks moving away from your base of friends, but, what happens, happens.  All one can do is rebuild.  When you get to your new school, be proactive about looking for other people with interests common to yours, and be the person to try initiating a conversation with them, rather than waiting for them to initiate one with you.  Also, again, joining some kind of club or group does increase your range of interests, thus giving you a better chance of finding someone who has at least one good interest in common with you.

Oh, and, if your high school offers a speech class, I strongly recommend taking it at some point, and sooner is better than later.  Definitely one of the better choices of my high school career.  Improved my social prowess quite a bit, most importantly.  I wasn't even particularly interested in giving speeches at first.  Of course, if the teacher absolutely sucks, that can ruin it, so it's worth asking around about first.

Edit: Theater also rocks, and has equal, if not greater, social benefits.

[teaflower]

Speech class is pretty good, as is any sort of theater program. Standing up in front of a small crowd of people, having to say something loudly and clearly, is terrifying, but it gives you courage. And that rush of adrenaline is always amazing. What's even scarier is having to sing in front of them. Smaller crowds, unrehearsed, is much more terrifying than a large crowd of people because then there's less chance they don't know you.

But... yeah. That's what I have to say.

[idioticidioms]

have you ever gotten so pissed off at people that you just start laughing? and you can't stop. for like 20 minutes to a half hour.

I probably should have been committed multiple times. But then, growing up, nobody really cared enough when a kid was fucked up in the head. Everyone always thought I would pull another columbine because I was always picked on, but nobody ever thought to stop the bullies from picking on me. It is a vicious circle.

Still though, there are going to be shitheads no matter where you go in life, no matter what you do, unless you isolate yourself. Better to learn to deal with them.

[nightmare975]

Back during my senior year I got into an argument with my ex at school, next thing I remember was lying on the floor in another room, shaking violently.

Luckily, it was the classroom of one of the teachers who liked me, so he never told the school what had happened.