I wasn't being facetious at all. What I was trying to express was the fundamental worth of platonic relationships with members of the opposite/preferred sex. I sense an undercurrent in Western pop culture to the effect that being in the "friend zone" is somehow useless and should be feared, but I say only inasmuch as any other friendship is useless and should be feared.
Would someone please explain what this alleged "Friend Zone" involves/ is defined as? I only understand the concept partially
That's something I've always noticed. Guys like to bitch about the friend zone alll the time but I've never met a girl who felt sad because she was in the friendszone. I guess for guys, there is some stigma about being left in the friend zone due to some reasons. I'd rather not share what I think the reasons are because it's pretty sexist XD; I'm glad that some men don't mind being in the friend zone, though. I've never met a guy who wanted to be my friend and not fuck me or at least date me at some point. There's been really only one friend I've kept who at first wanted to do that with me, but quickly accepted it wouldn't happen anyway. We've been friends since 2003. That's a record for me.
I never just want to F*** a girl when I meet her. The furthest I ever think is "She looks good, I want to meet her" or "She has a nice body". Yes I know that it is inherently and inadvertantly sexist (because I don't think about guys bodies and how they look or if id like to meet em), but is it wholly bad? "I would like to fuck her" is definitely sexist and bad, because its treating her like an object.
I have never straight up become a friend with a girl so I could fuck her (partially because I don't do that). I try and become a girls best friend if I like them, but thats just to get closer to them and get the more comfortable with me.
Also... I'm assuming you don't count internet friends in that catagory?
When you've got "ZOMG! Potential mate!" firing off in the back of your brain constantly and you let that distract you or guide your behavior, you're missing out on cultural trade with another human being and hampering your own development. IMHO anyway.
If I'm persuing a friendship/relationship with someone because I have the idea that she's the kind of person I would marry, does that mean I'm doing something wrong?
But try explaining that to a group of guys, and of course, you're instantly gay.
For once I'm going to go out on a limb and be completely blunt on this, and suggest that the stereotypical depiction of gay men engaging in "sodomy" is part of this, but it's only my theory.
From my point of view, being called homosexual is only a problem because of the connotations that it has. It connotates that I like men, and either wish to: marry a man or sodomize with him. As a person, I am insulted because its a misdescription of me, and because the majority of the time it is thrown specifically as an insult.
Its kindof like someone calling me a muslim, because it connotates I have different beliefs that i actually hold and it is probably thrown as an insult.
In a general sense, I have no problem with either gays or muslims. Its kinda disappointing that their ideals can be thrown as insults, too.
I would quote and reply to more posts but the general concensus would be that askmen.com is a sexist website with improper assumptions, about both sexes and even I am insulted.
now, when I say i dont want sex thats true, but...
I would go into it further but... this website is neither 4chan (where everythings disgusting) nor the Bruce Lobby (where everything can be talked about openly without consequence) so I decided against it.