People occasionally write some of their best posts in reply to something I said. To be perfectly honest, some people sometimes work better under pressure--under challenge, under confrontation.
Yes, "some people", like Z or FW or Lennis or Syna, and sometimes me. But as RW says, to an average joe, no offense but, you sound like a douche.
Nevertheless, my comment is correct. You should do better to contemplate that. If a person resents someone else for inspiring them to move toward excellence, their resentment is their own fault. We should all aspire to make no distinction in our personal reactions between wild praise, searing insults, and every compliment and criticism in between.
Besides, it’s not as though I purposely go out of my way to give people a hard time. I don’t break into people’s homes and scour their drawers for evidence of shortcomings. People bring criticism upon themselves by coming out and making unmerited assertions in public. Anyone who wants to participate in the public dialogue must be prepared to encounter the responses of others. The only alternative is to keep quiet.
I am pointing out the consequences based on the views of an average joe. They may not be intelligent, but they aren't idiots either. They wouldn't respect the views of those that don't respect them, it's as simple as that.
You give me an opportunity here to clarify something I didn’t do a good job of articulating yesterday. (That might be a theme in this post.) The exact criteria of “idiocy” aside, it is ignorant and self-absorbed for a person to refuse to respect the views of those who don’t respect them in return. Indeed, that is one of the basic forms of corruption. If a person will only grant their favors and their attention to those who bring them flattery and praise, they are corrupt. That is a flaw worth correcting.
Perhaps you were talking about true respect and not “flattery and praise,” in which case the corruption may not be present but the underlying pettiness is. Part of being a mature human being is to dissociate matters of the ego from matters of fact. The respect shared between individuals has no bearing at all on the merits of any logical, scientific, or artistic points under consideration.
I am speaking observationally. You were speaking pragmatically, by offering the opinion that I’ll encounter more popularity and agreement if I anoint people in the mellifluous oil.
That may be correct. It also may be incorrect. I am working on it.
See, the problem with resources, politics and taxes is that it's a national thing and it becomes mandatory for every national citizen to get involved. But "religion" is either social and/or personal...
I wish it were that easy, but in the United States there is a major political force of fundamentalist Christians who seek to dominate the entire society, and the practical ramifications of their policies affect all of us on a daily basis—some much worse than others.
People who wish to hold their religious views in private won’t get much, if any, antagonism from me. However much I disagree with religion, self-determining people have a right to decide this stuff for themselves—and not just a right under the Constitution, but under my own philosophy. The caveat is that religion belongs in the privacy of one’s own home and house of worship. There must be no impositions in the public square or the private economy. No attempts to theocratize the government. No harassing other citizens.
When people do impose their religious views in public, then the sanctity of those beliefs is forfeit and they are subject to the full scrutiny of a diligent citizenry.
Secondly, you probably don't know how the Belief system works in relevant to the mind (this isn't a topic to discuss that, so I'll explain some other time).
I understand this lovey-dovey stuff a lot more firmly than you give me credit for, likely more firmly than you do. I certainly have not wanted for exposure to it, and I have intentionally sought to come as a guest and share in the experiences of others so that I might better comprehend this portion of many people’s existence. Just because I don’t value something does not mean I don’t understand it. On the contrary, I would not make an enemy of that which I do not understand. That’s why, for example, I don’t speak about Hinduism as much as I speak about Christianity. My understanding is lower, and I have fewer avenues to make criticisms. What I do understand of it, I dislike almost as much as the Abrahamic dogmas. But I cannot yet speak to the entire religion.
In this case, I'v always warned you about being stuck in the realms of "Black or White" where you think that if one is wrong then the other should be right, which in turn creates tribalistic point of view.
You’ve warned me about this because your perception that I could use the warning is faulty. Consistently you illustrate a straw Josh who understands far, far less than the real one.
*chuckles* No, Josh. When you call someone a sexist it's an insult, even if you don't mean it in an extreme fashion.
“Sexist” is not only a pejorative but an
observation, like hair color. Whether or not the recipient of the label takes offense to it is meaningless with regard to the accuracy of the label, and I never use that label unless I have just cause.
Sexism is odious. All of us possess some measure of it. People differ in their desire to possess more or less of it, or their apathy thereto, and in the severity of those failings both ideologically and in practice.
By default it is always worth pointing out people’s sexism unless there is specific and powerful reason not to do so. The only question is
how to go about doing it from person to person.
Your culturally-based affirmations of sexism, and your opposition to the agencies of sexual equality, is beneath you—especially since you speak in the abstract about your opposition to sexism, with sincerity.
It all depends on how you arrange those words that counts, not how honest you are.
Which is precisely what I have said.
You might know a lot of words and may have mastered language, but apparently you don't know the psychology behind that language.
Your criticisms that I don’t understand this and that are becoming repetitive in their erroneousness. Perhaps this is because I have seldom taken the time to reply to your encroaching criticisms in fuller detail, as my involvement at the Compendium has been limited since your arrival here, and, in the absence of clarifications and rebuttals, you have assumed your initial views were correct and built upon them. Or perhaps it is simply that you do not know whereof you speak in the first place, which is more commonly correct when people make this mistake with me.
I will be quick to tell you about the many things I do not know, sometimes to my chagrin, but when people casually assert that I do not know about things which in fact I know very well, I look for the basis in those assertions—as it is in my interest to do. And what do I find? Very uncommon it is that these assertions have any merit.
This poses a problem for both me and the other party. It increases the noise that I have to sift through to find useful criticisms, and it makes me much likelier to dismiss your subsequent views as credible—sometimes at my own expense if you occasionally do offer good insights. Ultimately, at my discretion, making capricious assertions wastes my time or hinders your access to me, or both, neither of which is a good outcome, and so you should not do it.
Remember that intelligent debates only stick with intelligent people, while for the rest it's like, "Hey, I saw this cool stuff the other day, and it means a lot!" Yeah. The difference between them and you is that they care more about socializing and exploring the intrigue in that manner...
That is a smart observation, in that it touches on the problem of fostering appreciation in people. Often people do not realize when they are confronted with something monumental, or, if they do realize, they do not have the faculties to do anything about it.
I’m different from most people in that my social drive is not typical. I don’t much care for chitchat and smalltalk, except in specific circumstances. I well and truly recognize that my own example does not make a good base model at all for the wider human condition. I accommodate that in my reasoning, but it remains an active area of investigation for me.
Know how words can invoke what emotions, and you become a master in mind-control.
I don’t want to control minds. That would make the world full of people who think like me. What I want is for people to
use their minds. Having said that, it’s important to be able to direct people’s reactions to presentations, and that requires a powerful and broad-based understanding of human nature.
While the first part of this point is true, I sort of disagree with the latter half.
Do you detect the key logical fallacy you committed in that statement?
Firstly, yes, people are often distracted by their egos. But even for those that aren't, your methods are bound to hurt people's sentiments still. See, there's a time and place for everything in our world, and I've learned this the hard way. You use methods that are brilliant in a discussion room but are completely pointless in a social, empathetic field, no it's natural a lot of people would disagree with you, no matter how right you are, and accuse you for being an asshole.
Except for “completely pointless,” your remarks here are correct well put, and they address one of the reasons I created this thread. As you will recall I have asked for people’s suggestions on how I should deal with people whose egos resonate at the receipt of provocative information.
General opinion in this thread so far is vastly in favor of me being nicer, more courteous, and more respectful to people. Although I have yet to see a compelling argument justifying that approach, the fact that opinion overwhelmingly tilts in that direction is itself educational. It could be that humanity at large is not merely beholden to the impulse for social conformity, but is intellectually enslaved by that impulse.
Indeed, there has been very little discussion thus far about the actual merits of my philosophy. Most who have commented on it have only done so in passing, and have offered praise or a tentative posture awaiting further insights into its specifics. Awesomely, the hardest hurdle of any philosophy—intellectual integrity—seems not to be an issue. Instead, just as I suspected (which is why this thread is here), the big problem is not that I could spread a bad message, but that I could spread a message badly.
From my point of view, the challenge is straightforward: Ideally, people would consider this philosophy on the merits, and not get caught up in the color scheme of the presentation. For those who would get caught up, ideally I would preempt that reaction by tailoring my presentation to bypass their defensiveness and egotism. For those whose defensiveness and egotism I could not bypass, I would leave it to others to reach. My original problem is that second group; I can make it a lot bigger by dealing with such people better. “Being nice” may ultimately be the best solution, but I’m not persuaded at this point. It could well be that the best way to proceed is to rip people’s shoddy social frameworks out from under them through challenge and provocation. But at this point I’m not persuaded that that’s the best approach either.
Either way, I need to do is speak to things that people already greatly value, and therein win their inclined attention, at which point they will take care of some of the ego issues themselves.
But please, do understand what RW says: you don't need to hurt people's feelings for that.
Her point is well-taken. I don’t want to hurt people’s feelings any more than I have to, and ideally I wouldn’t have to do it at all. I don’t like making people feel bad. I like making people feel challenged—not to defend themselves blindly, but to consider new ideas and come up with their own take on those ideas.
...And this is what I don't like about this guy (but a trait I still keep for the character in my novel for crucial development): egoistically blind.
I certainly have a larger ego than average, and I allow myself to show it in contexts like these because it is to an extent necessary—although probably not to such an extent as I presently define. However, in addition to my strong personal self-discipline of ego, I also have a better grasp of the human ego than most people do. The
apparent irony is not lost on me that in a thread like this where I spend a lot of time talking about other people’s failings of ego, my own would seem to be most prominently on display. That appearance, however, is purely superficial. Even you—perennially self-humbling—are more egotistical than I am, to the extent that egotism denotes an undisciplined ego.
The reason I persist on this front is that
ego is a big problem when it comes to people embracing new ideas. Maybe the
biggest problem, and in the company of indoctrination, incuriosity, and apathy. I’m sure I’ll have more to say about this, because I have yet to articulate it to my satisfaction.
There's this problem in our society that if four mad men point at a sane man and call him mad, it's the sane man that gets take away. Regardless of evidence, if a rumor goes around that a person was caught being infidel, although his family and friends would know better but his acquaintances and other strangers would rely on that false knowledge and thus the person's social position is undermined and he is defamed.
This is one of the major flaws of relying on social status and secondhand information to relate to people or appraise them, and constitutes a segment of my argument that such systems are not worth keeping without heavy reform.
I find myself debating and arguing with a Christian friend, who I admit is one of the most open minded people in the world (yeah, even more so than you -- don't be surprised)...
It’s possible. There are people out there who are more open-minded than I am. I have met a handful. I’m not concerned with your perception of my open-mindedness, except to the extent it might hinder your consideration of my ideas, but for your own awareness you should know that when you make statements like that I don’t put any credence in them, as you have demonstrated a limited grasp not only of me but of the underlying concepts.
I expect—although ultimately it is a guess—that you mistake steadfastness or perhaps even feistiness for non-open-mindedness. It could also be that you have disproportionately encountered a side of me which does not highlight my open-mindedness. (I don’t spend much time on the Compendium musing, for example. You might look in the Love thread for more insights.)
I would also like to point out when you said that people react weirdly to criticism even though they deserve it. First, I could ask you, "Who are you to decide who deserves what?"
If you did ask me that, I would answer thus:
It is incumbent upon all of us, in the adherence to our closest convictions and the observance of our highest principles, that we
criticize people. Criticism is not a bad thing, tushantin. We only label it a bad thing because it makes too many people uncomfortable too much of the time. Criticism—both for the person making the criticism and the person receiving it—is one of the main pathways to self-improvement. I don’t criticize people to be flippant, mean, or ugly. I criticize people when my ethics demand it. If somebody opposes the right of all females to get an abortion, I criticize that. And so forth.
See the problem here: many people criticize for the weirdest reasons, regardless wether it's right or wrong, but their own opinions are right (read, Rise Of The Mooks).
That’s a very good point. One of the dangers of a philosophy that obligates people to uphold their convictions is that it mandates people to take action, so that people with shitty philosophies—or no philosophy, who float on the winds of popular sentiment—can potentially cause a lot of injury and destruction. Unfortunately the reality of power is that we must embrace it wisely rather than shrink away from it, which means giving people the opportunity to crash and burn and potentially burn a lot of others on the way down. The obligation of a society is to establish a law—not a single piece of legislation, mind you, but a judicial ethos—that protects people from one another in a society which encourages dangerous behavior.
I will be brief on this point (don't want to waste too much time on this). The method of argument you choose sounds excellent in paper, is excellent in systematic debates in courts, companies, organizations, etc. but is mostly useless in social welfare. There are different methods of criticism in their respective fields, and a smart bloke like you ought to exploit that. Provoking and intimidating people in general would make them naturally hate you, because whether or not you mean the things you say it also undermines their prestige, and it doesn't even matter if you're right.
I welcome your further thoughts on this.
You're not the first to think that you have "better Ego control than average people" (majority of the people say exactly the same thing, a situation that is contradictory to what you and they say), and I do see your air-tight control leaking but, in this case, I'll take your word for it.
Just because many people claim a thing incorrectly does not mean that anyone who makes the claim is incorrect. That’s a very simple mistake for you to make.
You go on to say you’ll take my claim at my word, in the same sentence as you say that my claim is incorrect. That’s incoherent.
I knew I was intelligent, but I never knew I was this analytic.
That’s a very enjoyable moment in life, realizing for the first time the extent of your current powers and the potential for how far you can yet take them. With experience, practice, and study, you’ll get more keen and become less susceptible, I hope, to faulty reasoning and conceptualizations.
I pondered what Z or Lord J would think of this people, but I instantly knew the moment I asked. If you guys were here watching with me, Lord J would call it a parade of mooks, RW would probably giggle, Syna would watch the parade in joyous intrigue (or even join them), Z would scratch his head and go back to fixing his resume, etc. But me? I saw them as these people as the most brilliant people in the planet.
Do you realize, I wonder, that you’re doing the exact same thing you have disagreed with me for doing? Except, unlike me, you are doing so in a very haphazard way. How much would you stake on your prediction of the reactions of those others and myself?
What I see, in your remark, is an unintentional acknowledgment of how you feel you have personally been treated in your interactions with us, with respect to each of us individually. I don’t particularly see the truth in it, not least because I doubt my own reaction to such a parade would be as you describe.
Five years ago I hated my nation for its inferiority to many countries like US and UK based on material quality of life and law. Today, I learned to see things subjectively, and I also realize that America (and other nations) is still fighting a strange social situation that India has already resolved a hundred years ago, which makes India socially, ethically and culturally superior to the majority of nations in the world. I grew to love my country in ways I never thought.
Hah! Yes...I gathered your patriotism when I offhandedly made a criticism of India recently that sent you into the web forum equivalent of conniptions. The United States probably could learn a thing or two from India. Well, no, let’s be honest: The US could learn an awful lot from India, and many other nations besides.
On the other hand, India is the major engine of the world’s population problem and is likelier than any other rising or established power to collapse in this century. The government is more corrupt even than America’s, the cultural ethos is even more cynical, and the social institutions are vastly more primitive. Many of the best Indians, come here.
It’s important to understand and respect what one’s own country does well. I acknowledge and appreciate that you have come to find things to admire in your own nation. I expect your previous disdain for India was not born of an actual understanding of the nature of your country, but of defensiveness at the cultural perception, passed onto you by your surroundings without you really understanding it, that India is inferior.
As you come to learn these things for yourself, you will unfortunately discover as though for the first time your nation’s ills and weaknesses, as surely as my sunny patriotism of ten years ago has since had to come to grips with the fact that the United States is a disheveled, drifting mess.
So enjoy appreciating the good aspects, and don’t forget them. Until we transcend the concept of nations, we must hitch ourselves to the nations in which we reside.
Almost everything Lord J or someone else says has a worldly, stringent definition but words do not remain the same the moment they enter someone else's mind. This explains why misinterpretation is common, why there are disputes, etc. but I can also see the beauty beyond this tragedy. This morphing meanings has nothing to do with people's ego, but their bias, and it brings colors to our bland world.
You’re talking about the subjective experience. Our concepts exist only in our own minds, and although we attempt to communicate them through objective media such as language, and even objective media backed by evolutionary queues, such as gesticulation, it is ultimately insufficient to the goal of communication merely to communicate in a manner which is comprehensible to us. We must also be similarly understood, and that, as you say, is an ongoing, colorful, and difficult aspect of our social existence.
Indeed, much of your own misunderstanding of me, I can tell, stems not from underlying ignorance on your part but from faulty interpretation of the various J signals you have received from me. Much conflict and woe, if not the majority of it, arises from a dearth of mutual understanding in the world. Understanding is even more powerful than empathy, and it is a precious commodity fraught with impurities and contaminants.
A good philosophy, of course, would have some observations and prescriptions about all this... =)