EDIT: But on a side note, perhaps you should be a little less strict about what you are looking for in a relationship? If you are too strict, then you may never find happiness. Take, for example, the possibility that you meet someone that is perfect for you in every way - but ten years down the road they suddenly become a fundamentalist Christian. Would you try to make the relationship still work then, or would you just give up?
I have confirmed that people I would like to be with exist. After all, I exist. Others like me exist. I'm extremely flexible and empathetic, and I see differences as learning opportunities. I tarried long in the halls of divine justice to explore the merits of that belief and empathize with it completely. And, just as I sometimes empathize with villains in fiction, I really enjoy exploring a person's dark side, such as petty emotions or neuroticism. That's just as interesting to me.
Edit 2: And a lot of this comes from self-validation and meaning in life. If I really do let my life solely be a sacrifice for someone else's, then what have I to add meaning to my own? Where do I derive my validation and self-esteem? I can't...deny my own nature. I find humanity's potential to be beautiful, and I don't believe in things without a rational basis. These innocent two points sculpt a lot of viewpoints and behavior. If we lived in a more intelligent world, we'd be telling the fundamentalist Christian guy not to limit his options to other fundamentalists, not me.
When I fall in love, it's because I seek to know a person at the core. Anything before that is just interest, like a crush. But I only fall in love after I've established a deep friendship and know someone very, very well. I thought things would work out here, but they probably aren't. But there are others. And I'm in the springtime of youth. It honestly isn't hard for me at all to fall in love with the right person. Maybe it's too easy.
So are you hiding the fact you disagree with her beliefs or are you intent to make sure she's aware of your opinion?
I spent a few months discussing hers, and it probably looked like I embraced them. Well, this period is over. I have to state where I'm not going to change.
I've constantly thought about this. There are just
differences that would hinder the complete intimacy and life-sharing that we both seek from a relationship, unless things seem reconcilable.
Edit: We're probably past the point where she's going to be offended that I'm talking about this in public, so ease up a little...