Nobody was talking about the reverse. Even if they were, when it comes to asymmetrical systems of discrimination by one population segment against another, using a commutative comparison is bogus. Observe:
When women are characterized as lusting after men, it demeans women.
When men are characterized as lusting after women, it demeans women.
That's how our society has evolved. And so your attempt to call in the one to neutralize the malignancy of the other is, at best, irrelevant, and, at worst, counterproductive.